Narcissists are unpredictable, volatile and even dangerous. But what narcissistic behaviours, specifically, make narcissists so hard to deal with in romantic relationships?
After a client session this week it dawned on me that I had not yet written an article that clearly and succinctly described the most common behaviours narcissists frequently display in their intimate relationships.
So, below you’ll find it… a comprehensive list of many behaviours you can expect to see from a clinically diagnosed narcissist or even just someone with narcissistic traits. Don’t try and explain anymore. Don’t send yourself ‘crazy’ trying to find the words to describe (or prove) what you are living, just refer the uneducated, ill-informed, non-believers and those in denial to this article.
This list is not exhaustive, by any means… nor should it be used as a tool for DIY diagnosis. Essentially what this list is intended to provide is information and insight so as to allow those suffering at the hands of a narcissist to feel validated and less alone.
Ok, here we go, common narcissistic behaviours in no particular order…
- Lying, hiding or distorting the truth
- Showing off, bragging and consistent big noting of self
- Nit-picking and constant criticism of others
- Attention seeking
- Verbal aggression and excessive confrontations
- Triangulation involving a third party
- Deliberate instigation of arguments
- Exploitation and ‘using’ of others to their advantage
- Tantrums, mood swings and sulking
- Character assassinations and smear campaigns
- Frequent and intimidating oppression of those who dare challenge them
- Avoidance, deflection and downplaying of issues raised
- Selfishness, arrogance and self-righteousness
- Excuses, justifications and denial
- Superiority and privilege
- Favouring of competition over relationship collaboration
- Rule and boundary violations
- Judgements, double standards and ever moving goal posts
- Public shaming and humiliation tactics
- Using their body as a weapon (eg. blocking, standing over or otherwise using their physical size to intimidate)
- Bullying such as name calling and put downs
- Repeated psychological manipulations used to destabilise
- Sarcasm and sick humour
- Entitlement like nothing you’ve ever seen before
So there you have it….. Narcissistic Behaviours…The Ultimate List
If you believe you are dealing with a narcissist and feel like you need some support, reach out to me. It was my very own experience with narcissism that lead me to become a therapist and it would be my pleasure to help YOU feel heard, supported and empowered so that you too can make the best decisions for YOU and YOUR life.
Sessions with She Counselling are available in office, over the phone, via video conferencing services or at a walk-and-talk location. In some cases home visits may also be available.
Before you go you may like to read these other articles on narcissism…
Until next week…
Yours in better mental health,