Starting a therapy journey is B-R-A-V-E. Not because it’s scary but because it’s uncomfortable, and it should be, because being uncomfortable encourages GROWTH!
I provide mental health support exclusively for women over the age of 18. Women and their unique experiences are my passion, without any doubt. I love connecting with them, laughing with them and telling them it’s going to be ok when they sit in my office, facing the discomfort of their tears.
It’s a very privileged position to be in, and I am forever aware of just how lucky I am to be trusted so much by these women. Not a day goes by where I don’t pinch myself and do a double take … as if to make sure therapy really is my ‘work’. Because to me, it’s not work, it’s an absolute joy in my life.
Ok enough… I’ll stop with all the ‘feels’ and get into it…
If you’re someone who has had therapy before, either with me or with another therapist, let me guess… you were nervous or anxious on your way out… you worried about what the therapist thought about you and whatever content you had brought along to the session?
Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Plenty of my clients eventually confess to feeling all sorts of things when they leave sessions at She. It’s normal to worry. It’s normal to doubt people and it’s normal to be concerned about someone’s thoughts about your vulnerabilities.
Want to know what I REALLY think when you finish a session and leave my office (or hang up the phone)?
Here’s a clue… it’s NOT;
- “Far out, that was a crazy story!”
- “Oh my gosh, what was she thinking???”
- “Why did she do such a dumb thing!”
- “Wow, she is so out of control!”
WRONG. WRONG. WORNG. Don’t let your fears convince you of anything even remotely close to that!
Here’s the truth about what I am actually thinking…
- Did I make her feel safe and secure?
- Was I warm and honest enough?
- Did I say anything that seemed unhelpful?
- I wonder if she really understood – maybe I wasn’t clear enough?
- Did what we talk about actually help her?
- I wonder what she thought of it all?
- I hope I made her feel heard and supported.
- Did I give her enough ‘take away’s’ from today’s session?
- What other supports can I offer her?
- Wow, she was awesome. I can’t wait to work with her again.
I speak only for myself, of course. I don’t know what other therapists think when their clients walk out… and it’s none of my business anyway! To me, my work matters. Your satisfaction matters and your ‘ROI’ or return on investment…. MATTERS. So, never think that you are anything less than amazing for taking the step into the world of therapy because you know what…. no matter what content you bring along you are MILES ahead of those who are yet to do the work. You are bold. Brave. Determined. Strong. And most of all… you are accepted and fully supported by me, just as you are.
So, there you have it… Therapy: What Do I Think When You Finish A Session?
I hope this article puts your mind at ease! If you have enjoyed it you may also like to read What Happens In Your First Counselling Session and 3 Therapeutic Approaches I Use To Help You Get Unstuck. As always, please remember I am here for you. When it comes to our mental health there should be no SHAME. Get the support you need and start living the life you DESERVE! My services are available locally in the Southern Highlands of New South Wales and also online for women around Australia. You can learn more about them here. If you feel you need to, please reach out to me here. x
Until next week…
Yours in better mental health,